5 Ways to Get De-Friended by a Scorpio
You may have heard of Xtreme Sports where participants practice daredevil feats with little protection, great courage and great pain.
You have? Fabulous. Now you know what it’s like to ride or die with a Scorpio. Let’s call it Xtreme bonding.
There are NO casual relationships to Scorpios.
Palling around with a Scorpio is like a boxer taking off his gloves and going bare fisted in a cage with a mixed martial artist.
It is raw.
It is intense.
It can be ugly.
There will be combats.
You will bleed.
But you will also love the rush of adrenaline. (Or at least they will.)
Scorpio is associated with the 8th house of the Other, which is all about intimacy and intense relating.
They are devoted to finding meaningful connections whether completely platonic, romantic or in between.
Not everyone gets to be a friend of a Scorpio because they are extremely distrustful.
They observe a world filled with superficiality and materialism and are doubtful (and scared) that few will share their values of depth, emotion, and quintessential experience.
If you pass the initiation and get accepted into the private world of a Plutonic friend, that doesn’t mean it will last forever. Pluto, Scorpio’s ruling planet, is a planet of change… of death and resurrection… sometimes old bonds will need to die to make room for new ones.
The choice is not made lightly. Any of the following faux pas could get you nixed in a Pluto transit or retrograde when a Scorpio is compelled to clean out their relationship houses:
1. Be Absent. A Lot.
Presence is very important to me and other Scorpios. Either you are in our lives or you are out. Don’t expect us to leave the front door open so you can run in and out of our lives at will and whim.
If you are gone too long, that door will be locked and dead-bolted (Aquarius people, whether Sun or Mars, please take note).
The point is loyalty, which Scorpios take very seriously.
But the point is also continuity. Since Scorpios want to mine any relationship to the extreme depths, you can’t do that if absences cause the relationship to stop and start over and over again. No new ground will be gained.
That might be fine for air signs who like to flit about the surface of a relationship and avoid things beyond the facade, but such behavior will be the death knell for a water sign relationship, such as Cancer and particularly with Scorpio.
2. Be Too Mainstream or Mayberry.
Mayberry is of course a reference to that fictional town on the old Andy Griffith Show where every thing was rosy and perfect and fit a proper decorum.
Scorpios like touring beyond the main, respectable roads.
Think Off Broadway vs. Broadway.
Think drop-out entrepreneur vs. straight laced collegiate.
Don’t get me wrong, Scorpios can and do excel very well in the mainstream but they might find it boring as Pluto is about taboo and dark places, going where other signs fear treading.
If you like rules and tradition, befriend a Capricorn. If you want to debate the existential need to break rules and create new traditions via a revolution, choose Scorpio.
These are the people who will go to the protests to legalize marijuana, who will challenge police officials and give the principal the finger.
Besides Aquarius, Scorpio is the sign most likely to embrace non-mainstream types like prostitutes, ghost hunters, circus performers, porn stars, and maybe even a drug dealer or two.
If you have prejudice against fringe types and you express it to the extent that it’s noticed by Scorpio, your days are numbered.
Since Pluto is concerned with transformation, Scorpios are always looking to reinvent themselves and their circumstances, for better or worse. If you like coasting, you will stick out like a sore thumb and you will drain the energy of a Scorpio who needs change for fuel.
I’m not talking external change as much as internal. Scorpios gravitate toward those who are introspective and grow by studying their psyches and learning new truths about themselves and Life in general.
4. Be a Tease.
If you are in any type of close or budding relationship with a Scorpio — it’s doesn’t have to be a romance, per se — sex or sexual undertones could develop as just another way to explore the chemistry and connection.
Scorpio often won’t initiate unless they sense the other person is game. If you flirt for fun like Libras and have no intention of following through and opening up that risque, volatile world of sexuality, a Scorpio will despise you for playing with something so sacred.
That’s not to say the entanglement would be long-term, repeated, or the road to marriage. Sometimes it’s just an exploration of a secret angle in the relationship that will be undertaken for the simple experience of it.
5. Compromise Them in Any Way.
Do not tell a secret. Don’t not bring people uninvited to their homes or private places. Do not reveal their vulnerabilities (which you will have a bird’s eye view to as a close friend.) Do not pit them in contest against another person for affection. Do not befriend their enemies.
I don’t care if this last one seems unfair or childish; they will want their enemies to be your enemies even if they don’t say it outright. If a Scorpio sees you fraternizing with their enemy or someone who has offended their honor in any way, you will slowly find a brick wall being built up between you and Scorpio.
There are many other ways to lose a Scorpio, but these are personal my top five. Feel free to post yours below.
You may or may not know a Scorpio has left your life.
Sometimes they will leave you with a scathing email, letter, or phone call.
But they can also just vanish.
Once a Scorpio is gone, sometimes they are gone for good, sometimes not. If they saw anything worthwhile in you once, they will always deeply believe that that virtue can be found again and saved… but they will be gun shy and unwilling to test that theory for years and years.
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