I have a theory that mutual intensity repels Scorpio men and Scorpio women. I have seen this multiple times. Radiating intensity makes Scorpio feel alive. Receiving intensity makes Scorpio feel VERY uncomfortable. Yes, Scorpio needs a partner every bit as strong, powerful and committed to romance as they are. They like partners who are invested 100 percent, but to be a true Scorpio love match, that person also needs to be the buffer for Scorpio’s intensity — not the mirror. Scorpios need balance. If they bring the emotional extremes and the compulsions, you must provide the understanding, the reasoning and the calm. That does NOT mean that you should be aloof or detached. Respond to their sentiment and obsessive attractions, but if anyone goes Glenn Close, let it be them....Read More
Scorpio Tip #27: Why your Scorpio may erupt in rage whenever the two of you try to complete a project together.
Let’s face it, a person can’t just stay in bed and be ravaged by Scorpio all day. At some point, a couple has to do couple stuff …such as putting together a treadmill, moving furniture, or painting the den. The problem is how to do any of this without detonating the fury that is Scorpio. Scorpios are not known for being patient and understanding when someone can’t do a simple screwdriver maneuver or decipher assembly instructions. They become super frustrated and verbally derisive …maybe even verbally aggressive. The best thing to do is divide the labor into distinct tasks THAT DO NOT overlap. You do your part; the Scorpio man or Scorpio woman does the rest. Otherwise, it might be best to do the task alone or let Scorpio complete it solo. Before you disparage Scorpio’s ego-centrism, know that some philosophers believe self is the basis for any creation or advancement in the world. Only an independent spirit can be a revolutionary, after all. So, what do you...Read More
Scorpio Tip #26: Scorpio seems to have lost interest after being REALLY excited about the relationship! Here’s What to Do.
Scorpios absolutely hate stagnation. Here are ways to intensify your closeness: Embark on a journey through the Kama Sutra. Take an art class together. Take a trip to a place you’ve never been — spontaneously! (OK. A Scorpio doesn’t really do spontaneous actions…. so just go on short notice). Exchange promise rings, engagment rings, or , if married, renew vows. Get tattoos together!!! (Scorpios would prefer you get their names or a scorpion inked on, just FYI). Watch an adult flick together. Learn the martial arts together. Then try to playfully dominate each other. Remember: Scorpios LOVE power play. Keep it light, though. Tour a shop with intimate lingerie or costumes. Role play in the boudoir. Go to a scholarly lecture together. (Brainy Scorpios need to stimulate their minds too, not just their loins!) Go to an indie film and afterward analyze it down to the detail over dinner at a nice restaurant. Scorpios love analyzing art — or anything for that...Read More
The emotional drama of Scorpio is one of the most exasperating Scorpio traits. The Scorpio often thinks if a lover is really in sync with them, they will simply figure out what’s wrong. So, use your intuition or go gingerly to Scorpio and ask what’s bothering them. Don’t apologize just yet — that won’t cheer them up unless you specify what you’re apologizing for. Scorpios easily get emotionally wounded. Maybe you ignored them, flirted with someone else, didn’t want to have sex enough, or dismissed their other needs in some way. The disappearing act might be paired with a volatile dramatic ending of the relationship where they tell you the relationship is over if you didn’t soothe them soon enough. Generally these dramatic endings are meant to say “I am hurt. Come get me and comprehend the reason. Please promise never to do it...Read More
Of course, Scorpio can also give you the dead stare and silent treatment. If you are secure enough to handle the inquisition and/or subsequent muteness & detachment, go ahead and declare your love firmly for Scorpio. The benefit is that Scorpio could feel more secure in the relationship, allowing the romance to deepen. However, it’s not unusual for a Scorpio to NOT say “I love you” back if you break the ice and confess love first. A Scorpio in love needs time to absorb the words and to trust that you take the word “love” seriously. Confessions of love are extremely serious to Scorpio. Whenever they say these three words, they mean it. They aren’t sure others do, however. Scorpio will be weighing your every move to make sure you’re not using the confession to have power over them or manipulate the relationship. When you do wait for Scorpio to say “I love you, “ you might be waiting a long time. Scorpio can fall in love fast but...Read More
The tool of flattery is to schmooze, massage someone’s ego, or manipuate them so they trust you enough to be open to your suggestions or control. Scorpio is immune to all that. Their egos and sense of confidence are so strong that they don’t look outwardly for affirmation, anyway. You can compliment them or not; it really won’t make an ounce of difference. One compliment and a Scorpio man or Scorpio woman may thank you. Two compliments? You arouse suspicion. Three? You’re ignored. I’ve witnessed this conversation between a Scorpio woman and a male stranger at a club: Scorpio walks into the room. Man: Damn, you look fine. Scorpio woman looks at him and keeps walking. Man: You too stuck up to say thank you? Scorpio woman: I don’t need you to tell me how the f*ck I look! Enuff...Read More
Comparing a Scorpio to someone else will likely solicit the fabled sting. First, you’ll be ignored as the Scorpio determines how best to abandon you. Then, the act of dumping you will involve some measure of envenomation. Heed Maya Angelou’s advice: “All comparisons are odious.” Really, no two items are ever alike and Scorpios loathe being remotely like anyone else. So banish these phrases: “You are just like…” “You remind me of….” “When you do that, I think about….” “You know who else says that….” “Now, you sound like my ________” And pray for your soul should you ever confuse a Scorpio lover with someone else so much that you mistakenly utter the other person’s name when addressing the Scorpio (!)…. I can’t even document here for authorities what might happen to...Read More
More Stinger Insight: Scorpios do love affection, however, — and need lots of it when in private. If you want to be lovey dovey away from the Scorpio’s den, the trick is to create the illusion of privacy. In other words, just because obvious public displays are out for the discreet Scorpio man or Scorpio woman in love, it doesn’t mean concealed public maneuvers are out. Those are hot! The risk of getting caught is thrilling. So, making out in cars and copping hidden feels at red lights when the folks in the next car can’t see might be VERY enjoyable for a Scorpio. Test the waters and see if they’ll play along. Scorpios also like discreetly becoming members of the, ahem, the mile high club, the park club, and other clubs (if you catch my drift). Just aim not to be seen in any obvious...Read More