Scorpios & Forbidden Love Affairs
“If a Scorpio feels destined to sync with someone, nothing will stop it, certainly not some arbitrary man-made morality.”
Julia Roberts. Vivian Leigh. Dorothy Dandridge.
With Scorpio & its ruler Pluto being associated with the 8th house — the house of other people’s property — I think it’s safe to say that O.P.P., made famous in the ’90s rap song, is a zodiac hazard.
OK, Thrill. Destiny? Well, maybe just a zodiac situation Scorpios (and other 8th house types) might consciously or unconsciously find themselves in whether by personal design or happenstance.
The 8th house, with its obsession for sex and psychology and the dark edges of life also involves the experience of benefiting or receiving fortune through things belonging to others.
Mostly this is discussed in terms of money and inheritance, but let’s be real here, it can involve a wide range of other people’s property — and often tends to be other people’s lovers.
Wait. I’m not condemning or suggesting this is unethical — it’s no more unethical than Pluto’s other forms of strategic destruction. Pluto specializes in destroying things and transforming lives for benefit, enrichment and growth. So, to dismiss this Scorpio urge for mate poaching as simply empty and sinister with no good intended is shortsighted and does Pluto in all its purifying glory a disservice.
Remember, Scorpio is a sign of loyalty, intense emotion, and high standards when it comes to intense one-on-one bonding. These, way more intensely than Libras, are obsessed with finding the ultimate partner. To that end, their competitive nature, need to possess, love of secrecy and all things hidden and taboo all converge to feed what can be a magnetic attraction to affairs or controversial liaisons. The Scorpio nature of negotiating Life through the values of self and self-interest is also a factor.
Don’t ask Scorpio Julia Roberts, born Oct. 28, 1967, about Angelina Jolie. She’s known for saying scathing things about her after she poached Brad Pitt from Jennifer Aniston. However, Julia herself reportedly fell in love with married Aquarius and cameraman Danny Moder on the set of the movie “The Mexican,” had an affair with him for two years, and later humiliated his wife, Vera, publicly as the Moders went through a divorce. Julia was famously photographed in a shirt saying “Unpretty Woman” on the front and “A Low Vera” on the back. It’s also said that she paid Vera a handsome sum to wrap the divorce up quickly and leave Moder alone. Of course, Julia remains a celebrity darling with children by Moder. No one brings up that past.
What’s different about Julia? Why does she perceive her act of man poaching as something more noble than Jolie’s? I do think Scorpios see their affairs as more redemptive and beyond reproach. They can operate, perhaps self-righteously, from the Pluto psychology that if the bond is destroyed and replaced with another then it is a transformative act — a renewal, an improvement, a righting of a cosmic wrong.
With the Scorpio nature being mystical and sensitive to Destiny’s unseen hand, Scorpios engage in affairs with the sense that any real bonding involves of an act of fateful soul-mating , supernatural forces and Cupid-like arrangement. Therefore, it must be pursued, honored and even glorified. There is rarely a sense that the affair is cavalier or cheap — which is how most other people feel about affairs. Fueled by the maddening dream that a forbidden lover may be the Ultimate Kindred destined to join them in the Merrily Ever After, Scorpios can chillingly ignore the emotions of others affected by an affair, fixing their radar solely on The One. This isn’t meant to be callous or evil. Scorpios don’t see ethics as black and white, but situational. And if the situation is that a Scorpio feels destined to sync with someone, nothing will stop it — certainly not some arbitrary man-made morality or censure from society.
Julia Roberts, who once called Moder’s marriage “a complication,” said of Moder in a 2007 Vanity Fair article: “It was, the most correct decision I’ve ever made in my life–not that it was even a decision, because it just overtakes you. My whole body knew.”
But Julia is one of the lucky ones. Often these 8th house entanglements end with the psychological and emotional devastation that Pluto is known for.
Dorothy Dandridge, the Scorpio siren best known for playing a femme fatale in the movie “Carmen,” had an affair with the married director of that movie, Otto Preminger, for four years. While Dorothy, born Nov. 9, 1922, loved Otto, she broke off the affair after realizing with heart break that he was never going to leave his wife.
Gorgeous Scorpio Vivian Leigh, born Nov. 5, 1913, is known as the quintessential Southern belle who played “Scarlet O’Hara” in “Gone With the Wind. She had a world-wind love affair with the dashing (and married) actor Lawrence Olivier after they starred in a movie together.
Gemini Olivier was married to Aquarius Jill Esmond at the time. Vivian and Olivier moved in together — they eventually married… and then divorced after 20 years.
Scorpio Grace Kelley emotionally traumatized herself and her best friend, Carolyn, after cheating with Carolyn’s husband and then confessing. Even Scorpio’s fierce loyalty toward friends may be no match for the compulsion of uniting with a lover.
The fate of these renegade entanglements are as volatile as they are breathless to be sure. And one can never tell if there will be success and, if so, for how long. But if Scorpio participates, they also must take the risk of being destroyed themselves by Pluto. And since Scorpio is often hopelessly drawn to self-destruction, that risk doesn’t seem to be a great deterrent.
ⓒ Synthia Rose & ScorpioLand, March 2009
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